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Morgan Wrolstad's avatar

I love this. I wonder what “type” of mom they might have thought you were at first!

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Oh I was the chatter, for sure 😂

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Katherine Mansfield's avatar

I teared up reading this! We feel so self-conscious and can’t help but compare ourselves in early motherhood. I love how you open the doors of each stereotype to humanize that particular “kind” of mother, and, in doing so, reveal to the reader how *she* might be perceived. The piece also connects us and, like another comment said, illustrates how motherhood is the great equalizer. Okay that was a long way of saying I’m glad you shared this here! :)

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Thank you, Katherine. It's amazing how quickly we can judge, only to find that we're not so different after all. I'm pleased you enjoyed the piece x

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Isabel Cowles Murphy's avatar

Oh how I love this. All these tender spots are our way in.

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Thank you, Isabel <3

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Ofifoto's avatar

Beautiful and honest, eloquent and humble. Perfectly your style, Charlotte. The comparisons and self-criticisms don't end, even when the strangers are considered friends, and the babies are all grown up!

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

They really don't, do they? I still find myself comparing myself to others daily (and always seem to find myself lacking)

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Ofifoto's avatar

That's how we grow, I guess, but sometimes it's important to reframe it to see yourself for the wiser person you're becoming.

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

❤️❤️

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Sara's avatar

Haha I was the chatter too! Always cracking jokes about how my baby was on a 48 hour bender. So funny I can recognise all these “types”, or at least my initial judgments of them, in my own mother’s group. Out of 15 or so, we ended up with 4 of us who are still so close 9+ years later. It really is a life line. ❤️

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Haha, I don't think I ever shut up. Then I'd go home and worry that I'd overshared... Destined to be a blogger (again) clearly.

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Sara's avatar

Absolutely 😂

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Amanda Jaffe's avatar

A different tone, yes. But 100% your voice? Yes! Love this, Charlotte!

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Thanks so much Amanda

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Kim Ross's avatar

Love this.

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Thank you!

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Louise Marie's avatar

As a new mum of 3 months, I relate! My baby classes are already my lifeline during the week 💕

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Ah a tiny one! How's it going? I used to plan my entire week around baby classes, I wouldn't have known what to do without them

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Danielle's avatar

Loved this! 🧡🧡🧡

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Thank you, Danielle x

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Kiya Taylor's avatar

Adored this — thank you for sharing it. Baby classes are a special kind of saviour in year one, and I can relate to pretty much everything you’ve described so perfectly here. It’s a beautiful reminder of the humanness in motherhood and how vulnerable you can be sitting in those rooms.

I’m excited to have stumbled across your Substack — looking forward to following along!

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Thanks Kiya!

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Katrina Donham's avatar

Tears, tears, tears. To be alongside a mighty force of mothers is like no other. The real ride-or-dies in this chapter of life. Thank you for sharing this (again), Charlotte! ❤️

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

I completely agree!

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Ginny Poe's avatar

Motherhood … the Almighty equalizer!

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Isn't it just!

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